I have a “Girlfriend”… I love her with all my heart… But many times I wonder if what we have is real at all…
As long as I can remember, I was always told “In order to have a good relationship there must be a strong foundation”… Is it just me or has that idea been lost in this generation?… We have become a society of”Secrets & Lies” as a way of life…
When my “Girlfriend” and I first met I can always remember how she was the perfect female, or at least that what she portrayed to be…
She would pay for herself even if I wanted to treat…
She wouldn’t care were we would hang out… She never had an issue with me playing B-Ball with my boys and as a matter of fact actually encouraged me to hang out with my male friends… She didn’t care that I was a momma’s boy…
But after a few months of dating I realized some major changes…
She hated that I put my mother before her… She felt that I was more loyal to my boys then I was to her… Plus she started to tell me she hates the spots that I picked for us to go out…
She went as far as to tell me that she didn’t believe me when I said I was playing Basketball… She felt like that was my excuse to step out on her…
It wasn’t long that I felt that I couldn’t trust her… her lack of trust in me made it impossible for me to put my entire faith in her
I started to question if we were a real couple… I started to wonder if she realy loved me…
Is it possible to have faith in your partner if they don’t have faith in you?
March 13, 2009 at 3:25 pm
abram atafa,
an interesting post that i must share my thoughts on. in my opinion, faith is the foundation that makes all things possible. without it, there will be no succession. a relationship without faith, is unfortunately a relationship without trust. if you cannot trust a person, i’m afraid there can really be no “love”. perhaps its time to reprocess.
March 16, 2009 at 11:43 am
Thanks for the advice
March 16, 2009 at 12:15 am
I agree with everything said except this…She was your perfect woman, when were you her perfect man? Everyone desires to be someones apple of the eye. You thoroughly enjoyed being the apple of her eye. Sounds like she was quite accommodating in trying to show her appreciation for you. But really, no woman brags to her friends that she just went out on a date to McD’s, no woman desires to have a man in her life who is in love with another woman when she puts in the back work. If your a momma’s boy its ok but it has its place and Momma should understand that she can share you for the sake of you having a happy well-rounded life.
True, it would have been better for her to be honest from the start…or maybe she was until she felt the reality of her poor decisions-mainly to show she loved being a second class citizen-lol. So here’s what I think, if you really love her you will put yourself in her shoes and see how the two of you can start making each other feel special and wonderful and fuzzy inside. Or you can question whether it was her you fell in love with or just what she offered you. A double pointer-most women will give you the world if they feel you are giving it to them. Ya Dig! Much Love
March 16, 2009 at 11:42 am
I gave her all that I could give. Maybe it just wasn’t enough… That’s how i see it… People grow apart… when you grow apart all kinds of issues come up… sometimes I think she was trying to settle with me… and she didnt want to settle at the end of the day… I need to be someones dream partner though